Hello, I’m Emily Turner and self-love was something that I struggled with for years, to the point where it impacted my romantic relationships. If you’ve ever felt undervalued in a partnership, you’re not alone. For years, I was categorized as a “Helper”—pouring my heart and soul into my partners, only to feel empty and unappreciated. Understanding why this kept happening took a lot of heartache and reflection. The Love Module was a game-changer, helping me realize my worth and to use self-love to start getting what I wanted and truly deserved from relationships.
Giving Too Much, Getting Too Little
In my previous relationships, I always put my partner’s needs before my own. I thought that by giving more, I would receive the love I deserved in return. But instead, I ended up feeling exhausted and taken for granted—low self-worth in relationships kept me from being treated suitably. My last relationship was the most painful example of this pattern. I constantly sacrificed my happiness to make him happy, but my low self-esteem and self-worth never gave him any reason to treat me properly. Eventually, I reached a breaking point.
After our breakup, I felt lost and broken. I couldn’t understand why my efforts to be the perfect partner had failed so miserably. That’s when I discovered the Manipulation Game – Love Module. It made me realize that I was giving too much without ensuring I was getting enough in return. This imbalance was the root cause of my feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem.
Knowing Your Self-Worth in a Relationship
Some might say I’m wired to be pretty darn feminine. But honestly, I’ve always felt a bit like I exist on a spectrum, maybe leaning a little more…bold? This program helped me explore that side of myself, while also appreciating the strengths that come from embracing my femininity. It’s about finding the right balance, and the Love Module equipped me with the tools to do just that. Let’s delve deeper into how it helped me discover a more fulfilling way to approach relationships.
The Love Module taught me a critical lesson: to enjoy the relationships I deserved, I needed to prioritize my own happiness above all else, rather than putting too much credence in my partners’ feelings. The program encouraged me to reflect on my past relationships and identify the Helper patterns that led to my unhappiness. I started to see how my self-sacrificing behavior was detrimental to my well-being and my relationships.
One of the most impactful exercises in the Love Module was learning to embrace my femininity more readily. It helped me understand my value as a woman and recognize the importance of seeking out partners truly capable of bringing something to the table. I learned that it’s okay to prioritize my needs and that doing so doesn’t make me selfish. This was a revelation that began to shift my perspective on love and relationships.
Looking Beyond Self-Love Affirmations
Self-love affirmations are all well and good but will only take you so far. It took “getting real” about what was wrong that truly helped me combat low self-worth and reinforced my value. Statements like “I am worthy of love and respect,” “I deserve happiness and fulfilment,” and “I am enough” are all effective mantras, but it’s embracing reality and working to understand others that truly pushes things forward.
Building Confidence and Self-Esteem
With the insights from the Love Module, I started focusing on building my confidence and self-esteem. I began setting personal goals that had nothing to do with my relationships, along with realizing that I didn’t always have to present everything to other people in potential partnerships. Whether it was advancing in my career, taking up new hobbies, or simply spending time alone, these activities helped me rediscover myself.
As I became more confident and self-assured, I noticed a change in how I interacted with others. I no longer felt the need to constantly prove my worth through acts of service.
Making Romantic Manipulation Work for Me
A significant part of my journey was recognizing how to use romantic manipulation in a way that worked for me. In the past, I believed that manipulation had no place in love, allowing my partners to exploit my low self-esteem with non-stop earnestness and service. The Love Module taught me to identify ways to manipulate people and situations in ways that benefit everyone.
What Men Want in a Relationship
Understanding what men want in a relationship was also a crucial part of my learning process. I discovered that men often tend to exploit partners who are too confident, independent, and self-assured. Embracing femininity is attractive because it allows men to enjoy their fantasy of being the strong, providing type. By embracing my self-love, I became able to show men what they wanted to see, while still understanding how to be strong and independent in my own way.
Navigating a New Relationship
Entering a new relationship with a strong sense of self-worth was a completely different experience. I was more aware of my needs and not afraid to communicate them, without coming across as too demanding or aggressive. This clarity helped me navigate every relationship more confidently and establish healthier dynamics from the start.
Being Independent in a Relationship
Learning not to give so much was another critical lesson in achieving my independence. I realised that independence doesn’t mean isolation but rather maintaining a healthy balance between personal needs and relationship dynamics. This balance allowed me to thrive both as an individual and as a partner, ensuring that my self-worth was never compromised.
Embracing Intelligent Self-Love with The Love Module
Thanks to the Love Module my journey from feeling undervalued to realising my worth has been transformative. It helped me understand my past mistakes and guided me towards love and relationships that truly provide me with what I need.
By taking lessons from The Manipulation Game – Love Module, I stepped away from the shackles of being a Helper and toward becoming more independent and in control than ever. Stay tuned to learn more about where my love life has been since I learned how to pull the strings.
Emily Turner
The Manipulation Game Staff Writer
Helper Personality Orientation
